Frequently asked questions
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Of course! Although I specialise in non-religious wedding ceremonies, I also pride myself on creating ceremonies that are inclusive of all people, whatever beliefs they hold. While I may not be the right wedding celebrant to lead any acts of worship, I am absolutely the right celebrant to find an authentic way to incorporate religious elements into your ceremony if you feel it’s right for you. Equally, if you would like a nod to someone else’s religious beliefs who is important to you, we can find a creative way to honour them while still creating the right feeling for your non-religious ceremony.
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The fee for a bespoke wedding ceremony with me is from £750.
I know this means I'm not the cheapest celebrant around, but as my old Nan says, "you get what you pay for" and this fee reflects the passion, care, time and dedication I pour into each ceremony to ensure it is perfect for you.
From getting to know your story in detail, to crafting a unique and personal ceremony script, and delivering it with warmth and heart on your big day, I’m committed to making your wedding truly unforgettable. I take on a limited number of weddings each year to ensure I can give each couple the time and attention they deserve and my fee reflects this. My promise to you is that you’re not just paying for a service - you’re buying a bespoke, meaningful experience that's worth the investment.
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A no-obligation ‘getting to know you’ meeting/call to check we're a good match
My ultimate guide to nailing your Humanist wedding ceremony - loaded with cool ideas, pro tips, and fun stuff to help you dream up the perfect ‘I do’s’ and ditch the stuff that’s not your vibe!
Fun planning meetings with multiple information-gathering methods
Advice and support with writing vows andchoosing readings (should you like it)
Symbolic rituals or acts (if you’d like them)
A completely bespoke written ceremony draft
Unlimited redrafts or tweaks you would like made to the script until you’re completely happy
A wedding rehearsal (if you’d like one)
Prior liaison with suppliers and readers or contributors ahead of or on the morning of the wedding day
Travel up to 40 miles outside of Milton Keynes
Professional delivery of the ceremony on your wedding day
A presentation version of your ceremony script
If any accommodation is needed or travel further than 40 miles from Milton Keynes, these will incur further costs that we can discuss before booking.
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I am based in Milton Keynes, Buckinghamshire. I lead weddings in Buckinghamshire, Hertfordshire and London mostly, but am happy to travel anywhere around the UK and beyond.
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Absolutely! I love to travel and am happy to discuss this as an option with you if your venue is further afield than England.
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I can absolutely help you with event managing your entire day for a further fee which we can discuss if you book me. I do not currently offer wedding planning at this moment in time, as I like to focus on writing amazing bespoke ceremonies for my couples.
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I think it’s important for you as a couple to get to know me first, to see if I’m a good fit, and for me to get a feel for you as a couple as that is who I’m making the ceremony for. So I advise for both of these meetings to be just the couple and myself to begin with. If you’d like someone else to meet with me too, we can look at getting another call or meeting booked in later down the line.
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Humanism at its core boils down to living a meaningful life filled with kindness and joy, guided by evidence, logic and compassion and helping other humans to do the same. Think of it as a philosophy of living life to the fullest while being good to others.
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No, you don’t have to be a Humanist in order to have a Humanist ceremony. All you need to know is if a personalised ceremony is what you’d like. No, you don't have to identify as a Humanist to have a humanist ceremony - it's for anyone seeking a celebration as unique as their relationship. You may find however, that you easily align to the Humanist principles without actually identifying as, or becoming a member of Humanists UK.
Humanist wedding ceremonies celebrate a couple's love authentically, without a set script or restrictions, allowing couples to share personal stories, honour traditions, or create new rituals.
These non-religious celebrations of love and commitment focus on the couple's unique journey and values, welcoming and respecting all backgrounds to create a special and inclusive experience for every guest.
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Humanist weddings are legal in Scotland, Northern Ireland and Jersey. While they aren’t yet legally binding in England, Wales, Guernsey, and the Isle of Man, Humanists UK is working hard to change that.
Many couples sort out the marriage legalities at a local register office before or after their humanist ceremony and see their humanist wedding as their true celebration.
This is in line with what we usually do for registering births and deaths - the legal paperwork is not usually carried out at a naming ceremony or funeral, but usually before.
This situation does offer some advantages – there's complete freedom over what can be included in the ceremony and where it can be held. This flexibility makes your wedding day even more personal and special.
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Yes, you can incorporate religious or cultural traditions into a Humanist ceremony if they are meaningful to you.
While the ceremony itself is non-religious, and while I as a celebrant would not lead any acts of worship, you have the flexibility to include elements from your heritage or personal beliefs that honour your background and values, as long as they do not actively exclude anyone.
A good example or idea would be if you wanted a family member or friend to lead an act of worship or celebrate a cultural ritual appropriatey.
Humanists UK have a more extensive FAQ section which you may also find helpful.
“I'm so glad we met Zadie, she was so sweet and kind. Even though it was only arranged in the couple days prior our wedding, she made sure to make time to have a call and check through the details of the day. On the day she was early just to meet us and she made every effort to ensure us of the perfect ceremony.”
- Kitty, Bride